Athletic Covenant

Ecclesiastes 4:12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken
Please read the entire TCA Athletic Guidelines for Parent/Coach Communication and complete the Parent's Athletic Covenant Form located below.

2018-19 TCA Athletic Guidelines for Parent/Coach Communication 
 
The partnership between athletics, coaches and parents is critically important to the success of the athletes and athletic program and to the school’s mission to develop the whole child for the glory of God. In an effort to facilitate healthy and God-honoring relationships among all of the participants, the following guidelines have been established. "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." Ecclesiastes 4:13 Participating and serving on a team should cultivate and enhance biblical character. Our mission is for teams to develop an authentic community, connecting coaches and athletes in a manner that leads to life transformation. Participation in athletics should cultivate selfless unity while developing an athlete’s leadership skills. All participants are expected to maintain biblical standards for behavior that are consistent with each team’s leadership and those of the school. The following are commitments we expect from the coach, student-athlete, and parent(s).

Athletic Guidelines

List of 5 items.

  • Communication parents should expect from their child’s coach

    1. Coach’s philosophy 
    2. Expectations the coach has for your son or daughter, as well as other players on the team 
    3. Locations and times of practices and contests 
    4. Team requirements, i.e., fees, special equipment needed, school and team rules, off-season expectations 
    5. Procedures that will be followed if your child becomes injured or ill during participation.  
  • Communication coaches expect from parents

    1. Concerns regarding your son or daughter expressed directly to the coach at the appropriate time and place 
    2. Specific concerns in regard to the coach’s philosophy and/or expectations 
    3. Notification of any schedule conflicts well in advance 
    As your child becomes involved in interscholastic athletics, he or she will experience some of the most rewarding moments of his or her life. It’s important to understand there may be times when things do not go the way you or your child wishes. These are the times discussion with the coach is encouraged.
  • Appropriate concerns to discuss with a coach

    1. The mental and physical treatment of your child 
    2. What your child needs to do to improve 
    3. Concerns about your child’s behavior 
    It is very difficult to accept your child is not playing as much as you may hope. Coaches make decisions based on what they believe is in the best interests of all students participating. As you can see from the list above, certain things can and should be discussed with your child’s coach. Other things, such as those listed next, must be left to the discretion of the coach. 
  • Issues NOT appropriate for discussion with your child’s coach

    1. How much playing time each athlete is getting 
    2. Team strategy 
    3. Play calling 
    4. Conversations dealing with other team members. 
    Conversations with a coach need to center around the common goal of partnering to help your child reach their potential as an athlete, student and a follower of Christ. Quite often, the difference is simply the spirit and wording of a question. For example, while complaining about your child’s playing time on a varsity team is discouraged, asking the coach for feedback on what areas your child needs improvement to reach his or her potential is strongly encouraged. 
     
    There are situations that may require a conference between the coach and parent. These are not discouraged, as it is important for each party to have a clear understanding of the other’s position. When these conferences are necessary, the following procedure is suggested to help promote resolution to the issue.  
  • If a parent has a concern to discuss with the coach, the following procedure should be followed

    1. Call or e-mail your child’s coach to set up an appointment. 
    2. If the coach cannot be reached, call or e-mail the athletic director and ask him to set up a meeting with the coach for you. 
    3. Think about what you expect to accomplish as a result of the meeting.
    4. Stick to discussing the facts as you understand them. 
    5. Do not confront the coach before, during or after a practice or contest. These can be emotional times for both the parent and coach. Meetings of this nature do not promote resolution of the situation, but often escalate it. 
    6. Use wisdom in what you say to others, especially before meeting with your child’s coach and getting all sides of the story. This can often escalate things unnecessarily and make resolution much more difficult.

Biblical Conflict Resolution

In competitive environments, conflict can often occur. Parenting your child through the rigors of high school athletics will provide many opportunities to teach invaluable life lessons about dealing with disappointments, success and, most importantly, correctly handling relationships. As people reconciled to God by the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, we believe that we are called to respond to conflict in a way that is remarkably different from the way the world deals with conflict. At TCA, we are committed to the Biblical model of conflict resolution and embrace the opportunities that athletics provide for everyone in our school community to grow in this Biblical discipline. When either you or your child has a particular issue with a coach or vice versa, the following process should be followed when walking through the resolution of the conflict:

List of 4 frequently asked questions.

  • Q: Glorify God- How can I please and honor God in this situation? 

    Colossians 3:17 And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father. 
  • Q: Get the log out of my own eye. 

    Matthew 7:3-5 And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.
    • How do my thoughts and attitudes align with Philippians 4:8? 
    Philippians 4:8 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. 
    • Have I done anything in word or deed that is contributing to this conflict? 
    • Honestly assess your motives and how they have contributed to the conflict. 
  • Q: Minor versus Major offenses 

    Proverbs 19:11 (The Message) Smart people know how to hold their tongue; their grandeur is to forgive and forget.

    It is necessary to confront when any of the circumstances listed below exist: 
    • Actions are dishonoring to God. 
    • Relationships are being permanently damaged. 
    • People are being hurt. 
    If you can answer yes to any of the above questions, prepare to confront, keeping the following things in mind: 
    • Pray for humility and wisdom. 
    • Plan your words carefully, think of how you would want to be confronted. 
    • Anticipate likely reactions and plan appropriate responses. Rehearsals can be very helpful. 
    • Choose the right time and place. Talk in person whenever possible. 
    • Assume the best about the other person until you have facts to prove otherwise (Prov. 11:27). 
    • Listen carefully (Prov. 18:13). 
    • Speak only to build up others (Eph. 4:29). 
    • Ask for feedback from the other person. 
    • Recognize your limits (only God can change people; see Rom. 12:18; 2 Tim. 2:24-26). 
  • Q: Be reconciled 

    Forgiveness that mirrors God’s forgiveness for us has the following characteristics: 
    1. "I will not dwell on this incident." 
    2. "I will not bring up this incident again and use it against you." 
    3. "I will not talk to others about this incident." 
    4. "I will not let this incident stand between us or hinder our personal relationship. 
     
    *Content taken from Peacemaker Ministries at www.peacemaker.net 

Tips for Parents

BE SUPPORTIVE OF COACHES – Be supportive and positive of the coach’s decisions in front of your child. If you have problems with what the coach is doing, it is best to talk directly with the coach.

TEACH RESPECT FOR AUTHORITY 
– There will be times when you disagree with a coach or official. Always remember that these people are trying their best and are trying to be fair. Show good sportsmanship by being positive. 

LET THE COACH DO THE COACHING, BUT YOU CAN DO SOME OF THE TEACHING
 – When your child is on the field or court, let the coach do the coaching. Shouting out instruction or criticism may hinder the overall experience of the student-athlete. You can teach sportsmanship and how to deal with success or failure. Develop your child’s character and teach the life skills that athletics and activities bring to the forefront. 

MODEL GOOD SPORTSMANSHIP AT GAMES
 - When cheering for your team, only cheer FOR your team. There is NEVER any reason to cheer against or “taunt” the other team. Never question or “boo” an official about a call. Negative comments and gestures of displeasure toward the coach, visiting team or officials only undermine the efforts of all involved. Always treat the visiting school as guests before, during and after the games. Cheer for your team to play hard and play to win but with an attitude of Christian sportsmanship.

HELP YOUR CHILD LEARN THROUGH FAILURE 
– The way your child handles failure can help him face the disappointment life will undoubtedly throw him at some point in the future. The worst time for you, as a parent, to give advice is immediately after a disappointment. Encourage and support your child, but allow him to cope in his own way. 

LISTEN TO YOUR CHILD, BUT STAY RATIONAL
 – Always support and listen to your child, but remember to stay rational until you have investigated the situation. 

BE MINDFUL OF YOUR ROLE AS A ROLE MODE
L – Take a good honest look at your attitude, actions and reactions in the athletic arena. These actions are a big cue to your child and to the others around you. 

SHOW UNCONDITIONAL LOVE 
– The most important thing you can do is show your child you love her, win or lose.

TCA Coach Covenant

  • I will commit to be a transformational coach who authentically acts and leads each student-athlete for his/her best interest, first as a person and second as an athlete.
  • I am responsible to select athletes in the best interest of the team and the mission of TCA.
  • I will use a holistic approach when evaluating a student-athlete, using qualities such as athletic ability, character, integrity, leadership, coach-ability and desire to improve.
  • I will be objective in all decisions in an environment absent of influence based on personal relationship, financial or time contributions, status or any other form of influence. 
  • I will create and maintain a learning and development environment.
  • I will instruct and admonish in a manner that is encouraging, and honest, telling the truth with love and grace for the best interest of the athlete and team.
  • I will welcome and promote an emotionally safe environment for direct communication with athletes for the purpose of their skill improvement and emotional maturity.
  • I will make myself available to provide feedback regarding the performance and progress of each athlete; but, under no circumstances will I discuss the performance, development or progress of other athletes. 
  • I will select team captains based on their demonstrated servant-leadership skills in the classroom, on the field and among their peers.
  • I will create and implement a practice structure designed to enhance the development of the individual and team. 
  • I will coach and lead athletes toward selfless unity and sacrificial love for their teammates and peers.
  • I understand that coaching at TCA is a privilege.
  • I will remain in good standing and uphold the policies, guidelines and mission of the Athletic Department and school.

TCA Athlete Commitment

  • I will attend practices, games, team functions and off-season in a timely manner.
  • I am responsible to communicate with my coach by noon regarding missed practices, games and team functions including off-season training.
  • I will commit to give great effort and diligence in preparation and to be coachable at all times. 
  • I will take responsibility for my attitude and my actions. 
  • I will commit to be disciplined, humble and to exercise self-control in all situations, on and off the field of competition. 
  • I will refrain from ridicule, harassment, profanity, unedifying speech and bullying of any kind.
  • Athletics is a privilege, and I accept responsibility to adhere to all standards set forth in all student handbooks.
  • My TCA team takes precedence over non-school teams when there is a conflict. 
  • I understand and accept that team captains will be selected by the coach or coaches based on character and leadership qualities. 
  • To wear the Trojan uniform is an earned privilege and, to remain a TCA athlete in good standing, I must uphold the rules and mission statement of the school and Athletic Department.

TCA Parent Commitment

  • I understand and agree that the goal of the TCA Athletic Department is to field competitive teams in each sport by positioning athletes according to the best interest of the team’s performance and culture.
  • I understand and accept that playing time or match involvement will be determined at the discretion of the coaches based on and a combination of positioning to win and player development.
  • I understand and accept each player will have a role on a specific team, and the athlete’s role will be determined by the coach or coaching staff.
  • I pledge to support the coaches and athletic department by communicating directly with the coach or corresponding Athletic Director when not in agreement or if I believe it is appropriate to express dissatisfaction.
  • I pledge to not publically complain, gossip or criticize those with whom I am in disagreement.
  • I understand the role of a coach and the significance to allow coaches to solely instruct the athletes, and I will not coach or instruct from the sidelines or spectator areas.
  • I will follow a biblical means of resolving conflict and comply with TCA’s conflict resolution guide as outlined in this Athletic Covenant.
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